To the women and girls who will never meet your dad, you are already whole. Whenever I hear a story about a girl reuniting with her long lost father that she never knew I get chills. I didn’t have any daddy issues growing up, I just didn’t have a dad and that was Okay. I’m the youngest of 5 girls, who also like me didn’t have active fathers so it was the world I knew. It wasn’t until it was time for me to get married that I noticed the void.
Stories like these are nice, but honey you were already whole
The video below is a presentation entitled “That Moment I Met My Father For the First Time” by Soul Pancake
What is wholeness?
To me, it is the feeling of worth, value, personal acceptance, and genuine self-love and it doesn’t come from external sources. While wholeness is a full circle where you feel that you are balanced enough to conquer the world, it isn’t something you pick up or catch. Wholeness is innately within you. It oozes internally through the very fiber of your being. It’s not taught, bought, nor sought. To me, these thoughts don’t come from your parentage, but from life experiences. Please take a minute and look in the mirror. You are beautiful and you were born whole.
What made me whole when I was growing up? It wasn’t anything special, wholeness is a mindset and a resolve about who you are. I know who I am, completely.
For those of you who aren’t so convinced, there was something that I took advantage of that also helped me grab my footing in the world and that was reading books about people lives. I loved reading biographies about people who rose above adversity. I figured if I could learn from their experiences, I could achieve many things beyond my personal understanding and grasp. The ability to learn from others and apply those lessons to your own
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